Notes on Growth, Healing, and Everyday Resilience

A collection of tools, reflections, and insights I’ve created to support your growth.


Inside, you’ll find bite-sized lessons, nervous system practices, and mental health reflections, drawn from my personal experiences and client work.

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I’m not the eldest child, but I still relate deeply to being a parentified one. the emotional sensitivity. the pressure to hold it all together. the discomfort with being seen when you’re a mess. I cared so much about being the calm, hel
for a long time, I glamorized my inner critic. I saw her as this total boss lady - powerful, no nonsense, and just pushing me to get closer to where she was. it wasn’t until recently that I realized she was really just a grumpy coach with a cli
even when the danger is gone, the bracing can stay. I see this so often in my clients: they’re surrounded by people who love and support them, and yet their body stays in this tense, defense mode. they snap, shut down, overexplain... not beca
there have been moments - especially early in my career - when I’d walk into a room and instantly feel my body tense. no one said anything unkind. no one was overtly hostile. but my system knew: I couldn’t fully be *me* here. so I did m
it’s hard in our hustle culture (and honestly, Asian culture too) NOT to equate moving fast with doing well. to be busy is to be worthy. to be ahead is to be safe. slowing down doesn’t just feel uncomfortable - it feels wrong. for me, i
I left my first career with no formal experience, no relevant education, and no credentials to do what I wanted to do next. while I had a deep curiosity, desire to help, and possibly irrational belief that it would all make sense eventually, it didn&
there are boundaries I hold at work that I sometimes struggle to hold in my personal life with the people I love. the line between being supportive and overextending gets blurry, fast. I start managing things no one asked me to manage. I get caught
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I used to be one of those people who answered “perfectionism” as a “weakness” in job interviews—like, oops, I just care too much and want everything to be excellent. 🙃 only as an adult, after years and years of wearing
stress leaves an imprint—not just on the mind, but within the body. this workshop weaves modern science with traditional wisdom to explore stress from two perspectives: nervous system science & qi gong. through introspection, sharing, and
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard a version of: “I know this isn’t good for me… but I can’t help it.” and to some extent, it’s not their fault—our nervous systems are wired to equate
there’s a certain kind of exhaustion that comes from trying to make the wrong thing work, whether it’s the job that looks good on paper but drains you, the relationship you seem to be the only one fighting for, or the commitments you made
I don’t think we talk enough about how hard it is to say, “this isn’t working for me” when it feels like we’ve been conditioned NOT to make things harder or more complicated for everyone else. I think this is especially
grateful to be surrounded by women who know how to be both strong and soft, driven and grounded, assertive and open-hearted. women who are independent yet deeply connected, capable yet unafraid to ask for help. women who have chosen themselves whe
for me, it’s not one specific person. it’s the invisible audience. this vague, ever-present “them”—the people I assume are noticing my every move, forming silent opinions, keeping score… pushing me to do the thi
many of us are operating on autopilot, repeating what was modeled for us or what we were forced to do as children. shutting down when things get tense. saying “it’s fine” when it’s not fine. (me. 🙃 because sometimes it feels
yesterday, for 24 hours, I kept a note on my phone of anything delightful—small things I’d usually overlook, blink past, or take for granted. among the 21 things (!!) I noted throughout the day: ✔ no one else on treads in the gym and no
anger that’s heard doesn’t have to explode. but most of us were taught that anger is a problem—something to suppress, ignore, or “calm down.” so we learn to push it down, to minimize it, to call it “annoyance&rdqu
I used to think if I was patient enough or understanding enough, people would eventually show up the way I needed them to. and when they didn’t, I turned inward—where am I lacking? are my expectations too high? should I be more patient?
a realer valentine’s day post 💌 because love isn’t just about finding the right person— it’s about allowing ourselves to receive the kind of love we say we want. the kind of love we don’t have to earn, chase, or prove